Girls can be as dumb as boys

Yes, you read that correctly. Sometimes us girls are pretty stupid. Usually we are at our worst when starting a new relationship. I could easily trace this back to baggage left by previous, equally dumb boys, but for tonight I will lay blame solely on us girls. (Kind of)

We want space. We want constant contact. We need reassurance. We say we don't constantly need to be told that you like us. We want to be perceived as strong, independent women who can do things on our own. We want you to open doors for us, walk on the side closest to the street, hold our hand, and give advice, etc etc etc. I mean I get why you boys might be a little confused. But TRUST me... (Ah there is the very important word now) most importantly we want to trust. We want to be able to trust that what you told us yesterday, is the same thing you believe today. We want to trust that the sweet things we mentioned two days ago, still has the same meaning two weeks from now. And when this does not happen we turn into self-doubting, ultra-overthinking, dumb girls.

It all comes down to trust. I use to be one of those people that when I met you, you had my trust. All of it. It was not earned. It was something that you could loose with me. And once it was lost, you would never really get it back. This is not the case so much. Being like that gets you hurt, and once you are hurt badly enough, you learn to change your ways with trust. Trust is the voice in the back of a girls head when she is in "dumb mode". Trust is the one to blame, shared equally with baggage.

Here is what we want. We really do want to trust you boys from the very beginning. We really really do. However, it is now impossible. By no fault of your own (current boys in our lives) and we do know that it is not your fault, yet.

We don't need to talk to you ever minute of everyday, but maybe at least 3 times a day or so could you let us know that you are thinking about us and you are alive? Without us initiating it first? A quick text or call is all we are asking for. Could you maybe reiterate something really important that you said the other day, just so we know we weren't  making things up in our head? Could you say goodnight to us when you go to sleep. Even if you think we might already be asleep. I know it sounds stupid, but sometimes (because of trust and baggage) we end up in dumb mode and these simple actions would smack us right out of that.

Not only would this little smack help us girls, its going to help you boys too. See by doing this, trusting you just might happen and then dumb girl (at least in this aspect) will not rear her not-so-pretty head. It is a win-win for both of us.  What do you think? You on board boys? I know a couple of girls whose love lives would be less dumb-girl like if you were....